Ten years ago, divorced and stumbling through the process of creating a life worthy of my decision to leave my marriage, I drew constant comfort from the words of my favorite poem….
I stepped from plank to plank
So slow and cautiously;
The stars about my head I felt,
About my feet the sea.
I knew not but the next
Would be my final inch,–
This gave me that precarious gait
Some call experience.
— Emily Dickinson, 1864
I started this blog in February 2011 because someone dear to me thought I had something to say that others should hear. Since that time, I have sometimes written daily and other times gone years between posts. I have written of heartache and joy, professional highs and crushing lows, and the multitude of challenges that accompany raising children with someone who barely even likes you.
In February 2019, I cleaned house and made most of my earlier posts private. Not because I am ashamed of them or because they are no longer relevant, but because my life has moved so far past those times that I needed something close to a clean slate on which to contemplate the possibility of writing again.
P.S. — Throughout my writing, I have changed the names of those who are innocent. Those who are guilty can bite me.
that precarious gait 
I have read several of your posts and they are so well-written as well as amazingly on target. I’ve been sitting here reading, nodding my head, and thinking, “Yes! Yes! Yes!” I know of what you speak. Wouldn’t wish divorce on my worst enemy – it ain’t easy, to put it lightly. But, on the other hand, it’s a second chance and I love that. Plus, I’m happier single than I ever was married to the ex. Keep the faith … and keep writing. You are awesome!
Thanks so much for your kind words! Always good to know that someone is enjoying these ponderings that I’m sending out into the ether….. 🙂
Re: “I’ve changed the names of those who are innocent. Those who are guilty can bite me”
That made me laugh out loud, a *real* LOL moment!
TPG! I’ve nominated you for The Versatile Blogger Award!
Go here to read the rules and accept your award if you so desire.
Congratulations! 😆
Thanks so much, TT! 🙂 It’s very sweet of you and I shall have to pay it forward over the weekend…
Really looking forward to reading more through your perspective. Nice!
Awww… thanks very much! 🙂
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Hello,
I have been stumbling through your blog for a couple of hours now… I have read about your daughters health struggles, (I had the same type of asthma as a child and adolescent, I have pretty much grown out of it at 26 but it still rears it’s ugly head at least once a year when I get a cold that is just a cold for a week and then all of a sudden I can’t breath and my lungs are filled with liquid. I feel for her, and you. I remember how much my attacks scared my mom as a child. I would go from having a cough in the evening to not being able to take a breath without coughing by midnight… It is scary.) through your worst. sex. ever. post, (again, I share the experience of phantom dick with you, but we called him ‘pencil dick’. And I have met the guy who ‘parks’ before he starts the engine…) through to ‘Precariously Lost’, which is a rather fitting way to describe how I feel right now, and beyond.
I am struck by how much your writing speaks to me. And I have many questions, but something tells me I just have to keep reading to find out more.
Thanks for posting, you definitely have a new follower.
Best,
– S.
Hi S ~
Glad you found me and I’m flattered that you’ve been enjoying your reading here. Your asthma sounds EXACTLY like Sabrina’s. Your poor mother… send her my regards! 😉
I think that’s the great power of writing… the creation of connection in an unexpected place or from an unexpected source. I am consistently amazed that there are books — sheets of paper held together by glue! — that have quite literally changed my life. It astounds me.
Anyway, feel free to comment or question. You’ll see that my little corner of the cyberspace is pretty easy and safe.
Best wishes to you,
TPG
I feel so honored getting to read these wonderfully well written postings from you. I too am divorced and stumbling through the process of creating a life worthy of my decision to leave my marriage. It aint easy but it sure helps knowing I’m not alone through all this. You are a welcomed edition to my “Self Help” reading material. Thank you TPG
Thanks, BooBoo, that’s incredibly kind of you. Yes, it definitely helps to have some company on this journey, doesn’t it? 🙂
consider yourself bit. well… you said if i was guilty, that i could bite you.
Just sayin’ . . .
Lol! 🙂 I don’t think I want to know what you’re guilty of….
I guess i should quit commenting. All the comments are now either you…or me. lol
Great blog and great writing! I just came upon it and I’m glad I did:) I look forward to your future posts.
Thanks so much, and welcome! 🙂
You must get these all the time but I have nominated for an award:)
Awww… thanks Rocks!
Beautiful. Poignant. And thank you
Thanks, Karen. Your appreciation is really valuable to me! xo